4 Struggles of Being Single During The Holidays, and How To Deal

The holiday season is officially upon us, friends.

There is so much to look forward to this time of year, right? Limited edition coffee drinks, omnipresent images of a dude with a killer beard and lots of weird-looking deer, cuddle weather…etc. It’s almost universally considered to be a pretty fantastic time of year.

But hold on, let’s focus on that “cuddle weather” part for a moment, shall we? Cuddle weather means weather specifically for being with others. An entire weather dedicated to appreciating intimacy. Honestly, the holidays can be a lonely time, even for those of us that are pretty okay with being single the rest of the year.

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Although there are undeniably few struggles that can come with being a singleton during this time of year, there are also many ways to deal with them. Let’s take a look.

Awkward explanations at family gatherings

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The Problem 

Holiday season is prime-effing-time for a barrage of relationship-centered questions from well meaning family members. “Do you have a boyfriend? Are you still seeing that one guy? Are you seeing anyone at all? Are you dying alone, surrounded by cats named after your ex-boyfriends?”

“Um, no. I mean, yes, I’m seeing someone, but he goes to school in Canada. He can’t come down here, actually, ever. Yeah. I’ll probably end things with him soon, which is weird, because he’s so in love with me and perfect…anyway. Will someone please pass the mashed potatoes?”

The Solution

Bring your best friend with you to every family gathering. Drink copious amounts of wine throughout the night. Loudly proclaim that you are “just not even interested in a relationship at the moment” and talk about your career instead. (Unless that’s awkward too, in which case, just stick to drinking wine with your BFF.)

Holidays equal presents. Presents equal happiness.


The Problem

Look, we hate capitalism as much as the next person, but we also really like gifts, so it’s kinda sad that we’re going to end up with less of the meaningless objects that we so desperately desire.

The Solution

Put this spin on it: you’re saving money because you don’t have to buy your significant other a gift. Score, right? Alternatively: go buy yourself a gift. Treat yourself. (Unless, like a certain writer, you are incredibly, incredibly broke. In which case, do NOT treat yourself.)

No warm significant other’s outerwear to borrow/steal.

The Problem

Yes, an important aspect of a relationship is the fulfilling emotional connection, but hear me out on this: one of the best things about dating someone, hands down, is the feeling of wearing their hoodies/zip-ups/holiday jumpers. Being single is awesome, but also means that you cannot do that. Bummer.

The Solution

Eh, just buy your own, I guess. Step one: snuggle up alone and think about your meaningful connection to the deepest part of yourself. Step two: revel in the gentle warmth of self-love.

A cold bed is an awful thing

The Problem

That moment between crawling into bed at night and entering the frigid embrace of the arctic nightmare that is your cold bedsheets can be a sad one. There are pretty easy ways to warm up a bed that require another person to be there, if you know what I mean. (Read: forcing them to enter first and roll around alone for a few minutes to heat it up for your entrance, obviously.)

The Solution

Buy a heating blanket, they’re 100% fucking worth it. Or perhaps invest in an inexpensive space heater, if you’re scared of sleeping under the cause of a potential electrical burn. Target even has a guide to choosing the perfect heater! What a time to be alive.

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But in all seriousness; being single doesn’t have to be a lonely struggle during the holiday season. A solid 75-85% of it can be fixed with a run to your local Target, so there is no reason to worry about it for more than a hot second.

Did we miss anything? Let us know in the comments, and remember:

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